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benefits of the pleasure wand

The wand doesn’t “vibrate” like a typical sex toy. However, crystal wands do hold a special vibration that replenishes your intimate area with new energy, removing old, stale, or stagnant energy. Unlike most sex toys it won’t desensitize the area with harsh, vigorous vibrations on your most sensitive, intimate areas. It’s a much smoother, gentler, and conscious experience – albeit an item made out of something as hard and dense as crystal. Using the pleasure wand will rejuvenate the area physically, sexually, and spiritually. Women who have self-pleasured with a crystal pleasure wand have said to experience more health, sensation, and sensitivity in their yoni. They feel “less dirty” and “more connected” to their most intimate space!

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WHAT IS A CRYSTAL PLEASURE WAND?

The Pleasure Wand is designed to internally, sensually massage your yoni simply by inserting it inside the vagina. With its glassy and sleek texture, the sensation inside is smooth and silky – similar to the texture of glass, however, charged full of high-vibration CRYSTAL! Each Pleasure Wand is lovingly crafted and blessed and infused with love and white light to bring out your most divine, sensual, feminine, peaceful, purposeful essence within. The wands are crafted and polished into a phallic shape wand for ultimate pleasure. The wand brings about a higher level of consciousness and vibration to your yoni and sex life, but also to your own relationship with your body and self. It helps you let go of the scripts we have of what sex should look like and allows you to trust your own pleasure-based instincts, guilt, and shame FREE. The wand is completely free of toxic BPAs and phthalates (unlike some plastic sex toys), which are known to play a factor in disrupting the endocrine system and may play a part in cancer and infertility.

HOW TO USE YOUR WAND

Channel an intention into your wand before each use. The intention can be as simple as “slow down,” “breathe,” “be present,” “send more self-love into my being,” “compassion,” “forgiveness,” “worthiness,” “abundance,” or whatever you are seeking for yourself! You may like to slide the wand in and out of your yoni with meditation or affirmation – breathing in love, exhaling peace. You can hold the wand inside the yoni and breathe long and deep while contracting your pelvic floor muscles. Another suggestion is to allow your yoni to invite the wand inside and allow the walls of your vagina to draw the wand deeper inside; this will greatly strengthen your yoni power, which will inevitably infuse into other parts of your life.

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GLASS PLEASURE WANDS

Wands made from pure borosilicate glass are another fantastic way to connect to your sexual pleasure while avoiding harsh chemicals in sex toys or desensitizing the buzzing of vibrators. YPP’s glass wands are hypoallergenic, 100% body-safe, temperature-responsive, and completely non-porous. Unlike crystal, which will crack under extreme hot/cold, this glass can be boiled or put in the freezer. The designs are also more intricate (take a look at those pleasure bumps!)

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VAGINAL (+CERVICAL) DEARMORING

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(or keep reading below for a written ‘how to’)

Crystal wands are also a phenomenal tool for de-armoring! Release tension from your cervix, vaginal walls, and pelvic floor muscles to enhance pleasure and let go of negative energy that no longer serves you.

Most women will come to find that when they first use their crystal wands they will feel the opposite of pleasure, instead perhaps pain or numbness. This is very common because women store all of the “bad” stuff that’s happened to them in the yoni. Hurtful comments, fear, stress, shame, guilt, anger, negative body image, abuse, trauma, etc; all of this becomes stored in the tissues of your pelvis. Physical and emotional tension in the pelvic floor needs to be released! It is recommended that if you feel you have tension in your pelvic floor you seek out a consultation with a pelvic floor therapist. If you have ever had sex before you were relaxed and ready, had a traumatic gynecological trip, given birth, experienced sexual abuse, sexual shame or guilt, been in a traumatic romantic relationship, or sent hateful thoughts to your body; then you will benefit from de-armoring.

Additionally, you can carry emotions from your partner/s within your cervix; sex with a partner is a powerful way to express emotion, vulnerability, and intimacy but can put you at the risk of intertwining energies. A big sign of the need for vaginal de-armoring is the fear of inserting anything into your vagina. The cervix holds the key to true connection with your sexuality but when it carries so much trauma and grief it becomes numb and reclusive. After working through this tension and pain, you will start to revitalize your most sacred center. The cervix is the gateway to your womb. In Taoism, the cervix is considered the heart-center of women. It is a portal to the womb, a woman’s power center. Once you free your cervix you can access your ability to create, manifest, and be free.

These wands have a curved shape to follow the vagina’s natural curve and a unique bulbous tip for cervical and g-spot stimulation. This shape and size has been proven to help women access more sensation in both their G-Spot and their cervix – unlocking deeper, vaginal orgasms.

Many women start their crystal wand collection with either the rose quartz or obsidian wand as it’s not too thick and intimidating and they have an option to starting with the thicker end or the more tapered end. The glass Cervix Serpent has a long hand which can make maneuvering the wand for dearmoring easier.

THE CURVE

Black Obsidian is the stone of releasing negative energy, clearing, grounding and protection. It’s a powerful stone for balancing and activating the Base Chakra. Great for people who have experienced any negative sexual experiences, clear out past sexual lovers or let go of emotional debris that no longer serves.

Rose Quartz is the crystal of Unconditional Love and helps to amplify feelings of love, compassion, self-care, gentleness and divine femininity.

THE LILA

‘The Lila’ is the perfect petite pleasure wand for women who have a smaller/tighter vagina, an over-active pelvic floor or perhaps just women who desire a smaller wand to press into the hard-to-reach pleasure points internally.

With its curved ends, this wand targets the g-spot erectile tissue, which is located a few centimeters inside the vagina.

Available in both rose quartz and black obsidian.

CERVIX SERPENT

The Cervix Serpent™ 2.0 is made of borosilicate glass and has a larger egg-shaped, serpent-like head with three ridges for G-Zone stimulation, a finer point for targeted cervical de-armoring, as well as more pronounced ribbed swirls for pleasure.

How to dearmor your yoni:

1. Crystal Wand Selection:

Purchase a crystal wand, specifically a wand that is curved, or a cervix stimulator so you can access your cervix head-on. You can select your crystal wand based on the energetic properties you want to invite into your healing, but I suggest using Obsidian, as this is the primary crystal used for drawing out negative energy. Rose Quartz is another great choice to bring love into this exercise that may seem scary or bring up feelings of low self-worth.

2. Sacred Space:

Take the time to prepare a sacred space. Take a warm bath to relax, use calming oils and/or music. Make your ritual space feel comforting, clean, and special. Make sure you put a do not disturb sign on the door and carve out time to be uninterrupted. Set the mood; light candles, put fresh sheets on the bed. Make your environment cozy and inviting.

3. Release Expectations:

Expectations will always set you up for failure. Instead of jumping the gun and assuming you know what your healing process will look like, allow it to take natural form and shape organically. Healing is a process, expectations immediately take you out of receptive healing and put you into a judgment zone. With expectations, you are ready to compare and critique yourself. Remove all goals, and love yourself despite whatever happens.

4. Meditate

Start by meditating on your sexual energy and the sacral chakra. Eliminate physical touch and focus only on energetic sensations. The subtle sexual energy inside of you may be shy, numb, or nervous to come out so take the time to first sit with these hidden sensations before coaxing them into physicality is important.

Recline completely. Bring attentive awareness to centers of sexual arousal. Breathe through any shame, guilt, or fear that comes up, as you breathe feel the tension in your sexuality release and flow calmly through the body. I encourage the flow of these subtle energies by incorporating mudras into my tantric meditation. Mudras, yoga seals in your hands, are an ancient art used by the Chinese, Buddhist, and Hindus. Yogis stimulate these energy locks in the hands to seal in energy and desired effects. There is a mudra for everything from digestion to cultivating Divine consciousness. Incorporating a womb or yoni mudra will enhance the connection to your creative sexual power.

Allow yourself to cry, to purge, to feel whatever arises.

5. Massage

The next step is to incorporate massage into your Tantric meditation. I recommend using a natural oil such as coconut oil. There are a lot of great oils made for breast massage and yoni massage here are two of my favorites, Yoni Elixir and Shemana. The massage is intended to bring you into physical contact with your body and to induce comfort with your nudity, but there is no goal of orgasm. The touch is to bring a deeper awareness to your sexuality and body and to encourage more profound flow of this energy. Work on bringing relaxation and releasing tense muscles throughout the entire body. It is important to continually implement the breath. Massage the breasts to open the heart chakra. An open and receptive heart chakra is necessary to open your womb and cervix. Your sacral space will relax once it is linked to a healthy heart chakra and receives the love it desires. Massage your yoni, again without a goal, just exploring, reconnecting with it, instead of being ashamed or afraid of it. Breathe through discomfort that arises and allow stuck emotions to release through the exhale. Breathe love, kindness, and compassion into your body and any areas that feel uncomfortable.

6. Self Pleasure

After massaging your body, if you feel drawn to self-please move with this desire. Before you begin cervical de-armoring you want to make sure you are relaxed. Arousal can be helpful so that your yoni is welcoming the crystal and not tensing or bracing. If you resist the wand or force it, that is counter-intuitive to the healing work. You want to heal through trauma not create more.

7. De-Armor:

You will start by “Yoni Mapping”, which means discovering where inside yourself holds areas of tension. Start at the opening and gently press into your inner flesh moving in a clockwise direction and gently and slowly find a spot in your yoni that is numb or painful. This could be along the vaginal wall or directly on the cervix itself. You want to gently push into the pain. Think of it as a massage, it is slightly painful but breaking through knots and areas of tension. Your yoni is a muscle too and carries your stress just like your shoulders! This is why it is especially important for women with anxiety to practice de-armoring. Hold the spot for 1-3 minutes, and deep breath into it. Allow whatever comes up to arise to the surface. Allow pain, anger, frustration, sadness, and any other heavy emotions to be felt. Sound all of this verbally, the sounding is the process of bringing your emotions out using your voice. Your voice is a powerful partner for vaginal de-armoring because of the intimate connection between the throat chakra and the sacral charka. Let yourself cry, scream, yell, and voice whatever you’re feeling. After the few minutes is over you can either conclude your practice or go on to find another spot. Search for spots in a circular pattern moving up the vaginal canal like a spiral staircase. Survey the entire vaginal wall for places of tension. Go at your own pace, perhaps that one spot was enough for today? Eventually, you will make your way to pressing directly on the cervix in the same way as described above.